Ms. Independent... And the Preachers who hate on her.

Dear Pastors & Preachers:

Like most women who do it all, I'm proud of the fact that I can do it all by myself without any relevant help from a man. But I keep hearing all these pastors, and preachers telling me to take a step back. "Do it God's way and things will be so much better." To which I usually start tuning out or rolling my eyes. This of course is noticed by said preacher and they begin to tell me all the way I was trying to take the pants away from God's chosen leader. Really GTFOH... Excuse my language Lord. But really. I'm trying to take the pants away from the chosen leader of the family. Oh I need to repent, sit down and take my rightful place as a woman.

First off let me say, I am a single mother... If I don't take care of my son, who will? Understand!!! See I am so tired of these so called spiritual leaders not taking into account the men who are there, then when times get a little hard they bail. Leaving the women/ mothers to carry the burden. Seriously speaking I never said I didn't want a man in my life, being the head of the household... But when the only male in the house is under legal age.... MOM NEEDS TO LEAD THAT HOUSE. Seriously, what is a woman supposed to do, sit back and wait for Superman to swoop down out of the sky and fulfill all our wishes. Maybe one day that will happen, and I will have a husband who will run the house and I can take my rightful role as a helpmate.

Until then I will continue to work and support my son. Continue to claim head of household on my taxes, continue to raise my baby as I see fit. I will not allow some man who is not "putting a ring on it" run a house in which I am truly the head of household. I'm not going to let a man come in my house and try to tell me how to cook, clean, pay the bills, and raise my son while he sits around all day playing xbox, watching tv, or hanging with his brothers/boys. That's not a man, and I honestly don't believe that is what God meant by telling me to be a helpmate. If I am wrong God will make it clear to me. Until he lets me know its time to take a step back... I will continue to push forward.

So for all you preachers telling single women like myself to take a step back and wait on a man: I have a proposal for you how about you take care of us single women, mothers and our children until this man comes around. You can pay the bills. You can buy the groceries. You can pay for basketball, swimming, music lessons and the equipment for all of them. You can make sure school supplies, clothes and shoes are paid for. That way we'll be able to sit around and wait for this superman to show up, don't worry since you're taking care of the household, we'll be able to cook, clean and be pretty all day.


Sincerely,

A Single and Independent Mom