The Truth about Baby Momma Drama

Its funny before you have children you have all these dreams. About marriage and how you will raise your child together... But this is America and many kids are born to parents who never take that stroll down the aisle. Especially in the African American community. I never thought I would be in that number. I'm smart, college educated, talented, work in a corporate setting and still able to pursue my passion... Alas I am in that number. I find myself wondering how people tend to not like each other after creating something sooo beautiful together. It just doesn't make any sense.

I've heard a lot of men saying that their "my baby momma just wants money that's why she putting me on child support", "she won't let me come over and see my kid" and my all time favorite "my baby momma is jealous of my new girl". All in all these men are trying to give people reason for calling the Mother of their child "CRAZY". These men want to feel justified in disrespecting the mother of their child.

I admit before I had my own child I too thought these statements were true... Women we are emotional creatures and tend to work from the heart... But now I realize its the fact that women start thinking with their heads once they become a mother and that's where the problems start.

Let me address the sayings:

"Babymomma just wants money that's why she putting me on child support"
--Really? My first question is Do you think clothes, food, shelter, doctors, daycare...etc are all free. Its your child too, what makes you think she doesn't need help. Even if she can afford to do it without you... Why should she its your child too?

"She won't let me come over and see my kid"
--This one is easy. Why do you have to be in her house? You don't need to sit in her face just to spend time with your child, take the baby with you. Find something to do on your own. She shouldn't have to hold your hand and walk you through a relationship with your child take some initiative... Take the kid to a museum.
--Then there are the mother's who are keeping themselves or their children safe... If the father is dangerous, abusive or in a dangerous situation, by all means take your kids and get the heck on... I'm not letting ANYONE put my child in harms way.

"My baby momma just jealous of my new girl"
--Now this one is a little more complicated. Since in some cases its true, but realize I said some not all or even most. People tend to use this one as a throw away. See if a woman can't have you she doesn't want anyone else to have you... Not. More than likely you are not God's personal gift to women, and she could probably care less about who's nerves your getting on. In fact she's probably happy you're out of her hair.
--Now some men say this to make things look good to their new girl. If she heard about you were still snooping around your baby momma, trying to be back with her, and still begging her to "GIVE YOU SOME" she would probably leave you too. But hey don't shoot the messenger I'm just being honest.

Don't worry I'll be turning this post around and doing the other side... That will be soooooo interesting TRUST ME!!!